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Let’s face it: Nobody wants to wake up on Monday morning and start a new work week. However, the Sunday Scaries
— that feeling of anxiety at the midpoint of the weekend — can make Monday that much worse. And by stressing out, you can lose the joy of half your weekend. Here are a few resources that can help you prepare for the week ahead.
 
Your Home, Your Sanctuary
 
Your overall attitude is partly determined by how you feel when you’re spending time at home. Here’s how to make your space a sanctuary.
 
57 Inspiring DIY Fire Pit Ideas and Plans to Make S’mores with Your Family
8 Must-See Features for the Ultimate Spa Bathroom Makeover
5 Tips to Create a Relaxing Bedroom
Room-by-Room Stress Reducers for Your Home
 
Feed the Senses
 
Sight, sound, touch, and taste also make a difference in how we perceive stressors.
 
The 10 Most Relaxing Songs in the World, According to Science, Ranked
21 of the Most Comforting TV Shows to Watch When You're Stressed
9 Foods That Calm Anxiety (and 3 That Make It Worse)
Reduce Stress Using the 5 Senses
 
Exercise Does a Body (and Mind) Good
 
Exercise really is nature’s medicine. Whether you want to walk or spend the weekend trekking the backcountry, the more you move, the better you’ll feel.
 
Can Exercise Help Treat Anxiety?
The Pacer Blog: Walking, Health, and Fitness
10 of the Best Weekend Backpacking Trips in the US
33 Ways to Increase Dopamine to Boost Your Productivity
 
Monday does not have to be a terrible “four-letter word.” The above links are full of great information to help you get your entire family mentally prepared to enjoy the weekend, and then tackle the week ahead.

Elena Stewart

Now that I have your attention, let us explore this interesting subject.  I’d like to focus this discussion on the issue of sexual dysfunction (sex is not what you would like it to be for one or more reasons).  There are many components that contribute to this problem.  Some of these can be related to the relationship; some related to physical causes, some have to do with traumatic events in a woman’s past such as a rape or assault.   The most important thing for you to remember is that there is help for you whatever the reasons are.  Sometimes you can discuss these with your partner, and sometimes that is not an option.  The topic of sexuality can be a hard one to initiate, regardless of who you are trying to ask for help.  A good option would be to discuss your concerns with your GYN provider.  Let’s talk about some things that might help you broach the subject if they don’t ask you first.  A few of the sexual dysfunction disorders are listed below.   Hopefully if any of these ring a bell with you, I want to encourage you to ask your GYN provider about it.  There are ways of helping you and your partner work through these concerns.  You deserve that help.  

For those affected with Female Orgasmic Disorder, it would affect 75-100% of occasions of sexual activity.  It consists of marked delay in, marked infrequency of, or absence of orgasm, markedly decreased intensity of orgasmic sensations, and it causes marked distress or interpersonal difficulty.

Sexual Interest/Arousal disorder would be of at least 6 months duration and have any 3 of these indicators, which may include absent/reduced frequency or intensity of interest in sexual activity, sexual/erotic thought or fantasies, or initiation of sexual activity. The patient is typically unreceptive to a partners attempt to initiate intercourse, notes decreased sexual excitement/pleasure, and may have reduced genital and/or nongenital sensations.  It must also cause marked distress or interpersonal difficulty.

Genito-Pevic Pain/Penetration Disorder can be lifelong or acquired (maybe related to one partner and not another, or didn’t use to be a problem with this partner and now it is), and can be mild to severe in nature. Symptoms have persisted for more than 6 months.  It involves persistent or recurrent problems with one or more of the following: vaginal penetration during intercourse, marked vulvovaginal (pain outside or inside the vagina) or pelvic pain during intercourse or attempted penetration, marked fear or anxiety about penetration, or muscles of the pelvis tighten just anticipating penetration.  

Some sexual concerns are more common at different stages of life; initiation of sexual activity, physical changes related to different types of birth control, postpartum and menopause changes, which can affect you both physically and emotionally. There are changes and adjustments that come with a severe injury or a major disease process such as cancer. These are just a few of the issues that may be causing you concern, and there are many more that we could talk about.  

There is now a drug approved for the treatment of female sexual desire disorder, but before that is prescribed for you it is important that you discuss your situation thoroughly with your care provider.  Not everything is fixed with a prescription.  Sometimes you may need someone that can describe the wide range of normal  anatomy to you, sometimes  information is the best, sometimes specific suggestions are helpful.  There are lots of books and videos that are educational that we can recommend.  There is information about personal lubricants, which are ok for use in the vagina, but options some may not be safe for you.  You may need to be evaluated for an infection or with an ultrasound to assess pain if that is a part of your concern. 

The bottom line is to talk with your GYN provider about your concerns, and together you can develop a plan to help improve your concerns.  A healthy sex life is important to your quality of life.  Share your concerns and get the help you deserve.  Thanks for reading!

Margaret Leverett, WHNP-BC
2305 Coronado
Idaho Falls, ID 83404
208-535-9009